Do you get over an ex by moving away from them? It’s what a lot of people do. I’ve certainly done it myself in the past. Of course, I was a lot younger, had no responsibilities, nothing to tie me to where I was living at the time, other than my job. And jobs are much easier to get over than broken hearts.
But in reality, when you have a whole life tied up in a particular place can you afford to just throw it all up in the air and move away just to get over an ex lover? And if you can, will it work?
There’s some good reasons for thinking it will.
- You won’t have to deal with the possibility of bumping into your ex.
- You won’t be around to hear what they are up to from all your mutual friends.
- You’ll have so much to do with moving, setting up a new home, finding a new job, etc that your mind won’t have time to think about your ex.
And really there’s only one reason why it won’t.
- You can’t move anywhere without taking your heart with you.
And that’s the real test isn’t it? Where can you go where your heart won’t follow? The answer, of course, is nowhere.
Now, it’s not for me to try and convince you to stay somewhere that is always going to remind you of your ex. Whether it’s the park you walked in together, the coffee shop where you first met, or the local pub where you smooched the night away every Saturday.
But those memories aren’t in the actual places. They are in your heart. They will be with you no matter where you go. You will never be able to get rid of them, whether you move away or stay where you are.
The only thing you can do is crowd them out with new memories. If you feel that the only way to make new memories that will be strong enough to stop you thinking about the old ones is to move away, then go ahead and do it.
But you need to very sure of what you’re letting yourself in for and you need to be prepared for the discovery that getting over an ex takes a lot more than a change of scenery.
Breaking up with someone you love is painful enough. Changing your whole life in an effort to get away from someone is added pressure that you really don’t need. You can change your life in your own backyard.
Get a new job if your current one holds too many memories.
Make new friends if your old ones are likely to be talking about your ex.
Find new places to hang out if your usual haunts are full of painful memories.
And dont think that you can’t do any of that if you stay where you are. They are all things you’d have to do if you moved away. So try doing them at home first.
