Getting Back With Ex Lovers – Your 10 Step Crash Course

Ok, so you have just broken up with your lover, and now you are missing them and are desperate to get back together. You may think you are the only person in the world to experience these feelings and regrets, but you are not. In fact, with a little forethought, getting back with ex lovers can be more than a possibility.

So with that in mind, we’ve put together your 10 step crash course in getting your ex back. Read it, use it, and come back to let us know how you get on.

Let’s be friends:

This is one of the most effective ways of getting your ex back. Your ex will expect you to mope, be depressed, and even beg him or her to return to your life. Surprise him or her by doing no such thing. In fact, go out and socialize.

Give the impression that you have completely ‘moved on’ after him or her, and do have a life of your own.  While you play the ‘I am over you’ role to perfection, also let your ex know that you hold no grudges against him or her for breaking up with you. This is vry important.

Instead, tell them you should be friends due to all the good times the two of you shared together. Call your ex every once in a while in a ‘friendly’ way, and while you are doing this, also subtly mention the subjects that your ex finds interesting. Speak intelligently about them, but don’t overdo it.

Patience is a virtue:

Whoever said that ‘patience is a virtue’ sure knew what they were talking about. Trying to win your ex back  must be handled with extreme patience. For this, you have to give your ex time to get over the break-up (and think you are over it too) before you start trying to patch up with him or her. Do not call or try to see your ex too soon.

Ask your ex out:

Why are you surprised. Since you’re still friends with your ex, this shouldn’t be a bolt from the blue for them. Friends go out with each other all the time. In case your ex smells a rat and plays hard to get, then maybe you can confide in a mutual friend who you know you can trust and ask him or her to organize a party where the two of you can meet. When going for this party, make sure you are dressed to kill.

Looking good baby:

Not just at a party where you have conspired to ‘bump’ into your ex, you must be dressed to perfection at all times. Pull out all the stops while shopping for your mission. Get a makeover if that will make you look great. It will certainly help you feel better about yourself and when you’re feeling confident and sexy, you can’t help but look it.

Jealousy sucks:

Quite opposed to what you might have been advised, flirting with others in front of your ex is a big no-no. This can lead to disastrous results. On the contrary, focus your attention on your ex. Talk to him or her intelligently. Don’t overdo the conversation. Keep it light, friendly with no overtones of romance at all.

Show off  your independence:

If you’ve always relied on your ex to do certain things for you, learn to do those things for yourself. If your ex always dropped you off at work, drive yourself or get the bus. And ladies, if your ex was the one who did all the little DIY jobs around the place, buy yourself a drill and get to work. Trust me, there is something guys find very sexy about seeing previous girlfriends getting down and dirty in what is primarily regarded as ‘male territory’.

Fatal attraction kills :

It is natural to miss your ex, especially after you have broken up with him or her for good.  It is also natural to want to know what they’re doing and who they’re doing it with. But do not make yourself look pathetic by stalking your ex either by phone or in person. Let them be and lead a normal peaceful life. This not only shows that you have handled the break up with dignity but also reassures them you are truly over them, (even though you know you aren’t. )

Do not forget birthdays:

Even after you have broken up, do remember to wish your ex a happy birthday, or Christmas or New Year… Also make sure you extend this to their family too. Remember, you want to show you are still friends with this person and friends keep in touch at special times.

Be happy:

Breaking-up can be heart-breaking but it definitely is not the end of your life. Remain happy and cheerful, once your ex sees you in good spirits even after the break-up, they are more likely to want to be around you. Nobody wants to keep company with folks who are needy and miserable.

Cultivate a new interest:

Do not misread this step. Cultivating a new interest does not mean getting into a new relationship. This means taking up a new hobby or interest to keep you distracted from the heartache that is typical of a break-up. It also means that when you get together with your ex you have something new and interesting to talk about.

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