If You Don’t Love Yourself How Can You Expect Someone Else to Love You?

You know, my mother always used to ask me this and it’s right. The trouble is that all too often we think that we shouldn’t love ourselves. And unless someone else loves us first, then that’s just proof that we are in fact, unloveable.

The fact is that if you go around thinking you’re unloveable, you’re giving off signals to everyone around you that is going to make them believe it too. Self esteem starts with you, not with your lover.

If you want someone to love you, then you have to believe that you are worth loving. After all, would you really want someone you loved to be with someone who didn’t deserve loving? Of course you wouldn’t. So if you want your lover to stay with you, to always love you, to truly believe that you are the one for them, then you have to believe that you are all those things that you would want for them.

“You, yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha

That’s not to say that you should put yourself above everyone else around you. But you have to find out what it is that makes you loveable so that you can pass that information on to whoever it is you want to love you.

Sending out the wrong signals to the Universe will only ever result in you getting the wrong outcome. Sending out the right ones will of course ensure you get the right result. Simple isn’t it?

Treat yourself right and others will naturally treat you the same way. Show yourself respect if you expect it from others. When you fail to take care of your own needs you are setting yourself up to be failed by those around you. Why should they care if you’re happy if you don’t? Why should they try to please you when you can’t be bothered to please yourself?

If you want someone to love you, start with loving yourself and see how much easier it is to attract a partner that will feel the same way.