If you’re in the midst of trying to deal with the break up of your relationship, you’re probably thinking that ‘happy‘ is one of those places you’re never likely to visit again. Just like all those other places you used to frequent when you were with your true love and now can’t pass within a hundred yards without breaking down in floods of tears.
One of the most difficult aspects of breaking up with someone you consider to be your ‘ true love ‘, is believing that you will ever be able to survive the break up. The devastation to every single part of your life, your personality, your soul, is so all consuming that there is no room for any other feeling.
Now, whether you love this person enough to want to fight for a reconciliation, or whether you know in your heart that getting back together will never happen and you want to move on, the first place you have to start is ‘you‘.
If you want them back, then being miserable and needy isn’t going to cut it. It’s just not attractive.
If you don’t want them back, you must accept that you can’t go through the rest of your life being miserable and needy. That’s not a life so much as a ‘life – sentence’.
Don’t expect it to happen overnight. It won’t. But you can speed up the process.
I’ve known some people still distraught over a relationship that ended years ago, and some who seem to be back to ‘happy’ within days. Don’t try comparing yourself to others. Don’t make the mistake of thinking you should be at a certain stage by a certain time.
Not only are you unique and different to every other person on the planet, but so was your love and your relationship.
In the words of ‘Pink’:
I’ll keep on rolling down this road
But I’ve got a bad, bad feelingIt’s gonna take a long time to love
It’s gonna take a lot to hold on
It’s gonna be a long way to happy, yeah
It doesn’t matter how far ‘happy’ is. You can get there. One breath, one step, one day at a time. You deserve it.
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Tags: being happy, break up advice, long way to happy, Relationship Advice, True Love
