Have you ever given any serious thought to what you want from a relationship? Usually, it’s not something we think about too much until one relationship ends and leaves us so hurt that we promise to be more careful who we trust with out hearts in the future. Up until then most relationships just happen. We drift in and out of them and never stop to really think long and hard about whether they’re fulfilling any deep and meaningful desires or not.
But then when you do take stock of your situation and start to focus in on what you really want from a relationship, suddenly it all becomes very important. From body type to eye color, from how they spend their leisure time to how much they earn, from their personal hygiene rituals to how they eat their food… suddenly it’s sooooo important that they fit into what’s acceptable and expected within your requirements of a ‘good’ partner.
Nobody is suggesting that you shouldn’t set yourself standards of what you want from a partner. Everyone is different in what they consider to be attractive whether that’s in looks or personality or values. But for the most part, in the early stages of a relationship, the only real aspects you need to consider are whether that person makes you happy or not.
Don’t start throwing away any chance of a relationship developing into something long term just because you realise on the first date that they hold their fork in the wrong hand. And if you’re finding yourself doing things like this, then you need to take a step back and ask yourself what the real problem is. Because you can be pretty sure it’s nothing to do with how someone eats.
Instead, it’s much more likely to be a reaction to the fact that your previous relationship broke down and maybe that partner held their fork in the wrong hand. While it didn’t bother you with that person, because you were in love, now that they’ve hurt you, suddenly you shun away from anyone who has the same ‘fault’ because subconcsiously you expect them to do the same.
It’s good to be fussy. Never, ever allow yourself to ‘settle’ for someone just because you’re worried you might not find anyone better. That’s unfair to you as well as to them.
But on the other hand, being too fussy will result in just the opposite and you’ll end up never finding anyone who fits the bill. If you want to find love and have a healthy, lasting relationship, then get ready to compromise your wish list.
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