When you’ve been with someone for any length of time it’s sometimes hard to recognize when the relationship is over. And even when you do, actually taking the step to end it can seem harder than just putting up with the status quo. I read an article today that got me thinking about breakups and why they’re so hard. (I’ve reprinted it below). For the most part, it comes down to a couple of things.If only one of you is...

A number of people have asked if there’s a definitive ‘Break Up Survival Guide‘ available.  Honestly, I don’t think a single guide could do justice to the whole array of differing types of break ups out there. Did you do the dumping? Were you dumped? Are you sad because you miss the one true love of your life, or because you can’t bear the fact they’ve moved on and found someone else to replace you? In order...

Are you getting over a break up right now? Do you hurt so bad that you feel like your heart is going to explode? Do you want to fight for love one minute and hide in a corner the next? Don’t worry, it’s all perfectly natural when you are dealing with a break up. Just as there are stages of grief when mourning someone who has died, there are also steps that must be taken when getting over the break up of a relationship. Many...

If you’re in the midst of trying to deal with the break up of your relationship, you’re probably thinking that ‘happy‘ is one of those places you’re never likely to visit again. Just like all those other places you used to frequent when you were with your true love and now can’t pass within a hundred yards without breaking down in floods of tears. One of the most difficult aspects of breaking up with someone...

Judging from the e-mails you’ve been sending in, it seems that a number of you are more interested in how to get over an ex, than in getting back together with them. I confess that what surprises me most about this is how quickly different people move from wanting to get back together with an ex to accepting that the ex isn’t the right one and wanting to move on and find the person that is right for them. Perhaps I shouldn’t be...