When your relationship hits problems you probably find yourself running through the ” does he love me” question a thousand times a day. When things are going well, true love fills us with an unquestionable confidence and security in our partner’s feelings. But the inevitable problems and stresses of everyday living can often lead to those feelings being undermined.
Unfortunately when you start looking for the “does he love me test” you find there simply isn’t one. At least not one that is going to give you the answers you are looking for. And the reason for that is simple. Once you let your insecurity take a hold so much that you start searching for answers outside of your relationship itself, you are condemning yourself to a never ending quest.
Do you know that over 40,000 people ask Google this very question every single month? Now why you would think Google would know the answer is beyond me. But with over 280,000,00 results to choose from you’ll understand why your search will be never ending.
If you really want to know whether your true love truly loves you, then you need to look within the relationship itself for the answers.
And by the way, this applies equally to men wondering “does she love me“. The advice here cuts across gender issues. Despite what popular myths you may have read, men and women are universal in the way they love. Guys may be better at hiding their emotions but they still have them and can hurt every bit as deeply as a woman when they are wondering if their true love really loves them in return.
Stop searching for the definitive ‘does he love me test’, and start searching within your relationship and yourself for the answers and you’ll find them much easier to come by.
Remember that actions speak louder than words. If your partner is constantly telling you how much they love you, but takes every opportunity to be with their mates, or stay late at work, rather than spending time with you, then you have cause to question the validity of their ‘true love’ declarations.
On the other hand, you shouldn’t expect them to want to spend all their time with you. Allowing each other freedom for ‘me‘ time is a sure sign of security and confidence in your love for each other.
Don’t be tempted to over analyse your relationship. Unfortunately, with all the information overload about ‘true love’, we sometimes expect it to be more than it really is. If you feel loved when you are with your partner, the chances are good that you really are loved. If you’re not questioning ‘does he really love me’, when he’s with you, why would you question it when he’s not?
The power of your own subconcsious insecurities can often lead to real problems within your relationships that weren’t there beforehand. Perhaps you’ve been hurt in the past and the emotions from that hurt are clouding your judgement in your present relationship.
For those whose relationships have broken down totally and are wondering “does he still love me“, it’s not quite so easy. But even here, look at how they act around you when you do meet up. Do you have their undivided attention? Do they take chances on touching you albeit ever so innocently? Do they send flirty text messages?
Even when your ex is with someone else, they will still show signs of loving you if that is how they feel. Of course it may well be that they play it down for fear of being rejected and their advances won’t be as obvious as someone who is in a committed relationship, but speaking from experience, I can tell you they will be there. 
Ultimately, only you will be able to answer “does he love me” with any certainty, but first you must look in the right places and that place isn’t Google.
