Getting revenge on a lover who has broken your heart might seem like a very good idea. After all, there’s no doubt that when someone has lied, cheated, abused and misused your trust and faith in them, they deserve anything they get back in return right?

Unfortunately, getting revenge tends to hurt you more than it hurts them. And if they’ve stopped loving you anyway, there’s no way you can hurt them in any real sense of the word. So why bother?

If you think that getting back at your ex will make you feel better, you may well be right. But how long do you think that feeling will last?

And if you ever hope to get back together with your ex, then planning revenge is definitely not the way to go about it.

Now, having said all that, there is a lot of truth in the saying that “Revenge is Sweet”. It certainly is, if you go about it the right way. And getting your revenge doesn’t mean you have to set out to hurt anyone and risk hurting yourself in the process.

The truest revenge you will ever get on anyone is in directing your energies towards making your own life better and leaving their lives well alone. You end up feeling great, looking fabulous and moving on to a whole new world of opportunity and freedom, while your ex is left wondering what the hell happened to the doormat that they figured would never be able to live without them!

The best form of revenge is living well. If you’ve directed all your energies towards making sure someone else is happy, try turning those energies towards your own life now that your ex is out of the picture.

Start up a new hobby, give your image a makeover, go someplace you’ve always wanted to go but never got round to, indulge your favorite fantasies… the possibilities are endless. And once you start focusing on getting your life back on track, and quit wasting time trying to get revenge you’ll find yourself in a much happier place.