Looking for Love
If you’re looking for love, the first thing you should know is that you are one of thousands of others doing exactly the same thing. Despite the fact it may seem to you that the rest of the world is tripping along quite happily and everyone else has wonderfully fulfilling and satisfying relationships, it’s really not that simple.
In fact, according to Google, over 33,000 people type in “looking for love” on their search page, every single month. And that’s not counting all the thousands of other phrases they search as well:
- Dating Sites – 201,000
- true love – 201,000
- Dating Services – 135,000
- Fall in Love – 90,000
- Looking for Love – 33,100
- How to find true love true love – 1,300
Now these are just a few of the thousands of different permuatations people looking for love ask Google every single month. So it seems reasonable to assume that the world is not as ‘loved up’ and happy as it seems to you.
Unfortunately, when you’re the one looking for love, you’re not aware of all these other people around you who are searching for the same thing. Your brain only processes the information that confirms you are single and miserable while the rest of the world is living in a state of relationship bliss.
When your own relationship is in trouble, or when you’re trying to come to terms with the breakdown of a relationship, your judgement and focus subconsciously adjust. It’s an automatic displacement and, unless you’re aware of it and make a conscious effort to avoid it, it’s not only your love life that suffers. Everything in your life suddenly seems to be wrong.
When you’re happy, the world is a terrific place. You’re surrounded by other happy people and greet each day looking forward to new opportunities for yet more happiness.
Looking for love isn’t some desperate quest that must be conquered at all costs. In fact, love comes looking for you. And why wouldn’t it? Happy, confident people, are attractive people. They naturally draw others to them without any effort on their par
t.
How you feel is reflected outwards, not only in your physical appearance, but in the energy you radiate to the world around you. That energy will either attract folks to you, or push them away.
I read a great quote recently in a book on relationships.
“People and situations walk through the doors of our expectations.”
If you’re expecting love to come through the door, it will. If you’re expecting to find happiness in a satisfying and fullfilling relationship, you will.
And yes, we know it’s not easy to redirect your thoughts. But if you’re looking for love, then you need to start believing that you deserve it and expecting to find it.
