Do you know almost 500 women ask Google every single month, “why doesn’t he love me“? And Google comes up an astonishing number of answers.
Do you think any of those results are going to answer your question?
Let me tell you. They won’t. Not a one of them. And the reason is simple. Nobody can tell you why someone doesn’t love you. Not even Lovers Return can do that. We don’t know you, we don’t know your boyfriend, how can anyone begin to fathom the workings of a heart that they don’t know. Heck, it’s hard enough trying to figure out the hearts that you do know!
There’s one thing that’s pretty obvious though. If you’re wondering why someone doesn’t love you, then you probably don’t love yourself either. And usually, that’s the answer. Because if you don’t love yourself, you can’t expect that anyone else is going to love you either.
We’re not talking ego’s here. If your ego is so big that you just expect the whole world to fall at your feet, then you have a serious problem. But without being conceited or over blown with your own sense of importance, you have to recognize the qualities in you that make you a loveable person. And you have to love those qualities yourself.
Have you noticed how some of the ugliest people get to catch the most gorgeous partners? And even how some of the most obnoxious, self centered folks seem to hitch up with the nicest people? Maybe you think you’re everything your ex ever wanted and then they dump you and go hitch up with someone who is the total opposite.
We have this dumb idea that we need to be skinnier, or maybe we need to dress sexier, or maybe if we were blonde instead of brunette, or maybe …
But here’s a thought. Maybe, if we just concentrated on being the person we can love then others will love us too. If you want to be skinnier or sexier, or blonde or brunette, or whatever you want to be, then be it. But be that person because it’s who you want to be. Not because you think being that person will make someone else love you.
You could change everything about yourself, but if you don’t like YOU, then it’ll all be for nothing. You won’t like yourself and the guy will know it and they won’t like you either.
Now it may very well be that you already like yourself. If so, why are you worried because one person doesn’t love you? There’s a whole world full of other folks out there. That might not be much consolation to you right now, when you’re madly in love with the one guy who isn’t returning those feelings. But you have to know that you can’t dictate to someone who they can and cannot love.
If the object of your affection is an ex lover and you know that this person once loved you, then you need to find out why they stopped. Did they change, did you change, did they find someone else… Whatever the reason, find it and then you can work on getting that love back.
I firmly believe that you never stop loving someone when that love is true love. You can go out and find out someone else to fill the empty spaces left in your arms and in your bed. But you are still left with that empty space in your heart. The same holds true for your ex. Don’t think that because they are with someone else, that means they are no longer in love with you. You might be convincing yourself that ‘he doesn’t love me’ but in reality they might just be looking to fill up empty spaces in their lives.
In order to be happy in a relationship, you have to be happy in yourself. Instead of asking, “why doesn’t he love me“, you will be much better off asking why you don’t love yourself.
